The Balanced Fem

Life often resembles a classroom, presenting recurring tests that encourage growth and evolution. These karmic or spiritual tests appear in relationships, patterns, and situations that feel strangely familiar. It’s as if you’re encountering “the same person in different clothes” — a metaphor for recurring challenges that resurface through different individuals or circumstances until you master the lesson they hold. To navigate these tests, it’s crucial to adopt a higher perspective. The people we perceive as betrayers or antagonists often play essential roles, not just in our growth but in their own spiritual journeys.

Earth as the Hardest School

As Dolores Cannon, a renowned hypnotherapist, author, and pioneer in past-life regression, beautifully explained: "Earth is a school, and your experiences are the lessons." Through her decades of work exploring the subconscious mind and uncovering wisdom from higher realms, Cannon emphasized the idea that life on Earth serves as a training ground for the soul, where challenges and experiences are opportunities for spiritual evolution.

Dolores Cannon often described Earth as the "toughest school in the universe". She explained that souls choose to incarnate on Earth to learn specific lessons and evolve more quickly than they might in other dimensions or realms. The density of the physical experience, coupled with the veil of forgetfulness, makes Earth particularly demanding.

This veil of forgetfulness prevents us from fully remembering our spiritual origins or life’s greater purpose, which can feel isolating. However, this amnesia is not a punishment but an essential part of the learning process.

Some interpretations suggest this forgetfulness is a "soul trap," created by forces or systems seeking to keep humans bound in cycles of reincarnation, tethered to Earth through unresolved karma or lower vibrational states like fear, anger, or attachment. However, the veil is a necessary part of the test Earth provides. By forgetting who we are and why we are here, we are forced to rediscover our true nature. This amnesia is not a punishment but a challenge — an essential component of Earth’s role as the “hardest school.”

The Role of the Other Person On Assignment

The person who plays the role of the “antagonist” in your karmic test is often on a spiritual assignment, whether they are conscious of it or not.

• They Are Not Inherently Bad: Spirit often chooses individuals for these roles because their natural tendencies align with what’s required to challenge you. For example, someone prone to dishonesty may be the perfect catalyst for you to learn self-trust and boundary-setting.
• They Are Learning Too: While their actions might hurt you, they are also navigating their own spiritual path. They are being presented with a choice — to ascend and grow or remain in lower vibrations. Just as you are being tested on how you respond to betrayal or pain, they are being tested on their integrity, compassion, and accountability.
• A Mutual Catalyst for Growth: Karmic relationships are rarely one-sided. Even if the lesson seems more apparent for one party, both individuals are offered an opportunity for evolution.

The Bigger Spiritual Picture

From a spiritual perspective, before incarnating, souls agree to take on certain roles in each other’s lives to facilitate growth. This is referred to as a karmic contract. While this doesn’t excuse harmful behavior—since free will plays a role in shaping which experiences manifest—it reframes the situation with compassion and understanding. Their actions were not solely driven by malice but by fulfilling a role that, in the larger scheme, may ultimately serve your highest good.

Why Some Choose Not to Ascend

One of the most challenging aspects of karmic tests is realizing that not everyone will choose growth. You may learn the lesson, evolve, and break free from the pattern, while the other person remains stuck in their karmic cycle. Their decision not to ascend doesn’t invalidate your growth. Each soul is on its unique timeline, and some are simply not ready to confront their shadows or ascend to higher consciousness.

How to Approach Karmic Tests with Grace

1. Recognize the Pattern: Awareness is the first step. Reflect on recurring themes or emotions in your life. What feels familiar? What lesson might be hidden in these experiences?
2. Separate the Person from the Lesson: Understand that the individual is a vessel for the lesson, not the root cause of your pain. Their role is ultimately neutral — they were chosen (or agreed) to help you grow.
3. Respond, Don’t React: Resist reacting from anger or victimhood. Instead, respond with wisdom, recognizing this as an opportunity to transcend old patterns. This is where you begin to alchemize energy.
4. Set Boundaries: Spiritual growth doesn’t mean tolerating harmful behavior. Part of passing the test often involves asserting your worth and setting healthy boundaries.
5. Forgive, but Don’t Forget the Lesson: Forgiveness is essential for your peace. However, it doesn’t mean inviting the same dynamics back into your life.
6. Release Attachment to Their Growth: Their journey is theirs alone. Whether they choose to learn their lesson or not is beyond your control.

From Pain to Purpose

Once you learn the lesson, the karmic cycle ends. The patterns that once triggered you lose their power, and the person “on assignment” may exit your life or the role may shift as the dynamic evolves.

Karmic tests are not about suffering but about rediscovery—of your resilience, wisdom, and divine nature. As you overcome these challenges, you align more closely with your higher self, embracing freedom and joy.

By understanding that the people involved are not villains but catalysts, you can approach these lessons with grace and compassion, knowing you’re progressing to the next chapter of your journey.

With love,

TBF