The Balanced Fem

I’ve always known I wasn’t the type to live a conventional life. For one, my moon is in Aquarius, which shapes so much of who I am at my core. This placement makes me incredibly sensitive to environments—where I live and the energy I surround myself with affects me on a very deep level. It also means I thrive on individuality and progression. My experiences reflect this truth. I’ve lived in the apartment with breathtaking views, traveled extensively, and even relocated to Mexico, leaving behind the conventional life I was expected to embrace in the U.S. These decisions weren’t just about seeking adventure or change—they were about stepping into my authenticity, honoring my nervous system, and aligning with what truly fulfills me. More importantly, my Aquarius moon inspires me to focus on how I can best serve both myself and others. It’s not enough for me to live a life that looks successful; I’m driven by a need to create, contribute, and empower. For me, success is about crafting a life that feels expansive, calm, and purposeful. 

Here’s the truth: You don’t have to measure success by what you’ve been told; sometimes subtly, sometimes blatantly. 

You’ve already shown that you can adapt, persevere and even thrive in a world not conditioned for you. You’ve climbed the corporate/job ladder, checked off the milestones society celebrates, and even mastered their systems. You’ve taken their educational programs, absorbing their definitions of intelligence and achievement, even when the rules weren’t designed to consider your individuality. You’ve carried the weight of their expectations, while managing a sea of debt and sacrificing parts of yourself to fit into a structure that often feels more like survival than fulfillment.

But the question remains: Was that your vision of success—or someone else’s? 

Now is the time to take everything you’ve learned from that world and use it to build your own—to create a new version of success—one that aligns with you. You don’t need to feel pressured to buy the “house with the white picket fence”, you don’t have to have children, you can go live on a farm or a beach if you want, and having a traditional 9 to 5 isn’t the only way to obtain resources. 

Here’s how you begin to reprogram: 

1. Define What Success Means to You

• Take a step back from external definitions and reflect on what truly matters to you. Is it freedom? Time with family? Creative expression? Making an impact? Being more physically and mentally healthy?

2. Question the Rules You’ve Followed

• Many of the rules we live by are inherited. So ask yourself, whose rules are these? Do they still serve me? Why haven’t they evolved with modern times? 

3. Embrace Your Power as a Creator

• You’re not just a participant in someone else’s game—you’re the architect of your own. Trust yourself to design a life where your unique strengths, passions, and vision come together. 

4. Let Go of Limiting Beliefs

• Most of the time, the biggest barriers aren’t the rules themselves but the belief system it creates in your head – aka the mental prison. It makes you asks yourself questions like: "Am I allowed to do this?” “Will I fail without this structure?” “Can I trust myself to follow my own rules?”

Replace these doubts with affirmations of self-trust:

• I am capable of building a life I love.
• I deserve to feel safe in my experience.
• I contribute my best self to the world, knowing my energy has a profound impact.
• Success flows when I honor my authenticity.

So, how will you start to re-define success for yourself? 

With love,

The Balanced Fem